Free event at Mothercare, Romford for expectant parents

Come along to Mothercare on 22 February and/or 2 March to their Expectant Parent Event to hear what Magical Baby Moments and other local baby-related companies do, as well as speak to the experts at Mothercare on all that you will need for the arrival of your little one.

If you are expecting a baby, this is an invaluable event, where you will get to meet the experts in store to advise and guide you through the minefield that can be preparing for a newborn. There are goodies and discounts to be had too.

With Magical Baby Moments you will find out how hypnobirthing can help you during your pregnancy, labour,  birth and beyond.

It’s a full antenatal course that teaches you and your birth partner:

⭐️ the physical side of what is happening in labour and the journey your baby needs to take to join you
⭐️⭐️ overcome any anxieties and fears surrounding childbirth so that you are positive and excited about labour and birth
⭐️⭐️⭐️ lifelong skills in how to remain calm and positive in situations where you might feel panicked or stressed

Join us between 6-8pm
Mothercare, Rom Valley Way, Romford

I look forward to meeting you soon.

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About Magical Baby Moments

Magical Baby Moments offers group hypnobirthing courses in Romford and Upminster, and private courses across Essex and London. Check online at http://www.magicalbabymoments.com/classes to find out upcoming dates.

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5 simple ways for dads to bond with their baby

The daddy-baby bond is a very special one. So while most young babies will spend lots of time with mum, it’s very important for dad to care for your little one too. Lots of cuddles and play time is essential. In fact, it forms the basis for a healthy father-child relationship.

New dads and their newborns have a special bond. Learn how to build a closer attachment with your baby during those precious first few weeks.

If you’re and new dad and you are not quite sure how to start bonding with your newborn, you’re not alone. While some parents begin bonding with their babies immediately, it’s also extremely common for some parents (both mum and dad) to feel a little uncertain about how to start getting close to their baby.

But bonding is really important. Whatever the long-term effects may be, we know for sure that strong, healthy relationships will improve your baby’s development by giving them a sense of security and self-esteem. What’s more, you can start forming those bonds as soon as your baby is born. It’s something you’ll be able to do during the course of your daily routine. Here’s how:

1. Hold your baby
You love your baby, and your baby will love being in your arms. New dads should carry their newborns cradle them, and keep them close to their skin for added bonding. Your baby will come to learn your familiar smell and will be comforted by your presence, even in those very early days. So be sure to start those cuddles as early as you can.

2. Massage your baby
Simple massages can help your baby relax and fall asleep. The key is to massage very gently. You might like to go to an infant massage class at your local hospital or read up on the subject.

3. Communicate with them

Your baby might not know what you’re saying, but that doesn’t mean they won’t like hearing the sound of your voice. Whether you’re reading, singing, or talking to your baby (or even mimicking those cute cooing noises), you’ll stimulate their senses and create a stronger bond with one another. (If you’re reading this while your partner is still pregnant, remember that a baby hears sounds while in the womb, so there is nothing to stop you chatting to your baby even before they are born, so that they are familiar with your voice).

4. Give them a bath
Giving your new-born a bath will help both of you relax after a busy day and get your baby ready for a good night’s sleep. Also using this time to bond exclusively with your baby also gives mum a chance to recharge her batteries for a short while.

5. Get into the swing with a sling
There will be times when you want to be near your new-born but aren’t actually able to hold them (if you are doing things around the house) you can put them in a sling instead. Putting your baby in a front carrier will help them feel cosy against your chest — just make sure their carrier offers good head and neck support, and that their airways are clear to breathe easily.

These are really easy techniques to implement into your daily routine. Not only will you and your baby benefit by spending quality time together, but it will be extremely beneficial for mum too, to have some precious moments to herself.

About Magical Baby Moments

Magical Baby Moments offers group hypnobirthing courses in Romford and private courses across Essex and London. Check online at www.magicalbabymoments.com/classes to find out upcoming dates.

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Supporting spontaneous labour

Whenever you research how long a pregnancy lasts, you will commonly hear the following:

– just over nine months

– approximately 280 days

– 37-42 weeks

So as you can see, the range is quite vast and wooly. So think about it…if you’re pregnant, the chances are your medical caregivers have given you an exact date as to when they think your baby will be born. Wow, they’ve managed to pinpoint it to on single 24 hour period…amazing!

No, it’s not.

By you being given one single day to pin your hopes on baby arriving can have a multitude of knock-on effects. It puts pressure on you as a mum, as you wait for the signs of labour to show; you will no doubt have friends and family checking in on you and you’ll also have your medical caregivers suggest a ‘date for induction’, even before you’ve crossed the 40-week mark.

The NICE guidelines state that inductions for pregnancy should only be done if there is a medical reason. Being ‘overdue’ is not a medical reason on its own.

Take a look online and you’ll read of many 10-month mamas. Women who have confidently chosen to let nature take its course and go spontaneously into labour. There is even one woman who’s pregnancy lasted 375 days* (yes that’s longer than 12 months).

So what I want to convey is, pinning your expectations on a single day is perhaps not the right thing to do. According to research, only about one in 25 (four per cent) of babies are born on their exact due date . About one in five babies are born at 41 weeks or after. So rest assured, this is totally normal.

You’ve done a fabulous job growing your baby and trusting in nature. Now let your body decide when to give birth.

*this was the number of days from menstrual cycle to birth.

Another great weekend teaching Hypnobirthing to expectant parents in Romford 

This weekend 10 & 11 September saw more expectant parents in the Romford area learn about hypnobirthing. Here’s what they had to say about the course: 

“I feel more informed and now have an idea on how I want the birth of my baby to be.” Nisha

“I am a lot calmer and more positive about giving birth.” Sarah

“Hypnobirthing is something every expectant couple should try and experience. There is so much to think about when preparing for your baby and this helps to focus, through a condensed information pack and relaxation scripts.” Mayank

“I feel much better now, as this is our first baby. I didn’t know what to expect but now I feel more confident it will be s nice experience.” Sergio

If you want to prepare for your baby’s birth, find out more on Magical Baby Moments website.

Be informed and prepared for your baby’s birth

So if you’re expecting a baby, you have no doubt been excited throughout your pregnancy.  As the labour looms ever-closer, perhaps that excitement is fading and other feelings are creeping in as the unknown of that big day rears its head.

For many first-time mums, friends and family members will fill their heads with negative aspects of the birthing experience and they will use words like ‘pain’, ‘trauma’ to talk about their births, as well as describe the menu of pain-relief options that they needed to ‘get through it’. All of this is extremely damaging to the mum-to-be.

Let’s ask ourselves a quick question. Why do all other animals cope so well with birth (without medical assistance) but us mere mortals just aren’t able to? Or can we? Is it just the mindset that we have conditioned ourselves to think that is the barrier to us being able to enjoy and celebrate birth as an exciting and empowering experience?

In recent years, women are seeking out hypnobirthing courses, as a full antenatal preparation class, which not only teaches them the physical side of what is happening to the body during labour, but also teaches them tools and techniques to manage labour more efficiently and calmly. They believe that there must be more to us and that we should be more aligned with our friends in the animal kingdom.

So what is hypnobirthing?

Hypnobirthing is a tried and tested method that prepares a woman in giving birth in a peaceful and natural way, often without the need for medical intervention. Women who hypnobirth learn special breathing techniques, relaxation, visualisation and meditative practice that help them stay relaxed in labour, and as a result tend to have an easier and shorter labour. They learn to trust in nature and trust in their bodies.

Why should you choose hypnobirthing for your baby’s birth?

Women who use hypnobirthing during labour found that hypnobirthing encourages the birth experience to be natural, calm and comfortable. It often allows the mother to feel more alert and in control, as well as giving them the tools to manage the intensity of labour. This often results in not needing the level of pain-relief that she had anticipated and in some cases they don’t need any at all.

Hypnobirthing classes also help teach the birthing partner to be actively involved and reinforces the important role that they have in the birth, both supporting mum and protecting their baby.

Used correctly, the hypnobirthing breathing, visualisation and relaxation techniques lessens the physical impact of childbirth, as the techniques encourage the mother to work with her body gently – this often results in shorter labours. All of this combined, potentially allows the baby to be born in a calm, gentle and drug-free atmosphere,

Magical Baby Moments Group Hypnobirthing Course JulyWhat to expect in a hypnobirthing class:

You will come away understanding how the body and mind work together; appreciating that the mind is much more powerful than we realise. You will also be taught:

  • Self-hypnosis – to help you to induce deep relaxation
  • Fear release methods – to allow you to be relaxed and confident for the birth
  • Massage techniques – to stimulate endorphins, your body’s natural pain-killer
  • Visualisation exercises – to keep you grounded, calm and positive
  • Positions for labour and birth – staying in an upright position can help to shorten the length of your labour

The ideal time to start classes is anytime after 20 weeks of pregnancy. This will allow you ample time to practise. If you’re already past this stage, don’t be put off. You can still benefit from classes in your last weeks of pregnancy as the techniques are simple to understand and easy to practice.

Magical Baby Moments is based in Romford, Essex and offers regular group courses or private classes to couples every month. To find out more visit www.magicalbabymoments.com or call Christine on 07764 680 215.

September Hypnobirthing Weekend Course – spaces available

It’s not too late to join Magical Baby Moments‘ weekend hypnobirthing classes on 10/11 September.

Learn techniques to help you prepare for a positive, calm and informed labour and birth. 
Understand that there are choices that you can make – you can influence you and your baby’s birth path.

Have a fully engaged birth partner who can fully support you.

Go to www.magicalbabymoments.com/classes to find out more what the course content includes. 

Potential discrepancies between antenatal teaching and grass-root midwifery care

Ok, so as some of you know, I was in the very fortunate position to be at the birth of a friend of mine.

It was truly magical and moving, on so many levels, and yet I have come away somewhat annoyed at the midwifery system.

As a hypnobirthing instructor and a geek of all things pregnancy and birth, I had read carefully through my friend’s birth plan – nothing was out of the ordinary or seemed short-sighted in any way, which would compromise her or her baby. And yet when it came to ‘the day of action’, the direction from the hospital care left a somewhat bitter taste…here’s how the story goes…

My friend had been labouring at home,  and for the first four hours she was relaxed, focused and breathing. As the hours passed, I could see that things were progressively intensifying.

Instinctively, she ‘felt’ when she was ready to transfer to hospital. 

I could visibly see that each contraction / surge was needing much more focus and was lasting longer.

Upon arrival to hospital again, things were ramping up further, each surge become a little harder to get through… She was coping brilliantly.

To my delight, the reception area was silent and we were seen to immediately. In triage, the midwife wanted her on the bed to be examined. When I informed her that she didn’t want to be examined, we were challenged and made to feel that we were asking for a ludicrous request. 

“Everyone must be examined, otherwise how will we know how far gone she is?” -was her response. “We won’t move her to the labour ward until we know how dilated she is.” She said in another breath.

I tried to explain my background and that the antenatal community advocates that the woman has every right to decline Vaginal Examinations (VE). She huffed off to get the consultant!!

Upon his arrival, he too insisted that a VE was ‘for the best.’ We relented. [Sigh]

The good news was that she was very far along and that it was likely that baby would soon be making an appearance.

On moving to the labour ward, we spent a  ridiculous amount of time answering basic questions; answers that could have been found in the maternity notes – and in my opinion, have no place in the labour ward (what number pregnancy is this? Do you have allergies etc etc)…

Why is there no central database for this information??? They’ve had 6 months to log this in!!! [Second sigh].
While trying be helpful with the labour midwife – answering these questions as best I could – she reprimanded me for being too close to the computer monitor and asked me why I was watching her. To which I replied something along the lines of ‘It’s nicer to speak to someone up close rather than talking over a labouring woman. And that it was my natural curiousity as to why I was observing what she was doing’ – nothing else. She clearly wasn’t happy with me.

A little while later, she saw me going over the birth plan (I just wanted to refresh myself on her wishes) to which she asked me what was I reading, and could she ‘have it’. She hadn’t even bothered to look inside the maternity notes to find her copy (now I’m beginning to get frustrated and can see first-hand, outside of being in labour myself, why midwives sometimes have this bad reputation).

Our next ‘battle’ was whether my friend needed to be continually monitored. Research suggests that being monitored continuously has no increased benefit, than being monitored intermittently with a Doppler. But because of a previous C-section, should we decline ‘we might put baby at risk’. [Third sigh] Yes another conflicting message between antenatal teaching and what happens with the labour team on the ground.

So we relented again.

Within a short while, contractions were becoming quite uncomfortable for her. She was now starting to ask for pain relief. On this point, I was quite firm with her. Considering how brilliantly she had done up until this point and knowing that pain relief doesn’t always work on her, I encouraged her to try a bit longer.

But as time passed, her pleas changed and it was clear that she needed some help. But as she was so far dilated, our only option was to have her waters broken (something that I was personally worried about her having done) but as it was the only option and she really wanted some assistance we consented. [A small sigh from me].

True to the midwife’s word baby came very quickly after that and I got to witness the beautiful birth of an adorable baby – just as I teach, ‘in the most usual way’.

Now that time has passed, I have reflected on the experience.

While the antenatal community, including independent midwives, explain the choices that mums have. In reality, it comes down to the midwife on the day, her knowledge, her experience and maybe the outcomes that she has witnessed first-hand.

There are some things that I wished were different, but in reality what do I have to be annoyed at?

She had a beautiful birth, delivered a happy, calm and healthy baby. So ok, so things didn’t go according to plan… But then that’s why we’re trying to move away from calling them birth plans, but instead calling them birth preferences. 

We have to accept that we have to be flexible, as we’re just not sure, nor can we predict what will happen on the day. 

Go with the flow, use BRAINS

B – Benefits

R – Risks

A – Alternatives

I – Instinct

N – Nothing

S – Smile